Why I do not have time for you or anyone!

I hope this article is able to be read if yo double click on it. A friend (and client) posted this on her facebook and I could not help but share it. I am technically a stay at home mom that some how squeezes in owning her own photography company. There may be some weeks here I may only see one client and then four the following, all while take on a few design projects and a wedding or two and somehow I still manage to not have to put my son in daycare (yes he does go to school a couple of times a week until 2 and trust me that is not long enough)... I sit at 2:30 in the morning at 8 months pregnant with #2 (still not sure what I was thinking there but know I will embrace and love it) editing, emailing, planning, paying bills and wondering why the F do I do it this way?

I thought this article was perfect! So many of my friends without kids just do not get it... they just do not get how difficult it is to maintain friendships and the life you had before kids. They think I should be able to balance and trust me I would like to. The worst part is, is that I know so many husbands to my girlfriends, especially the ones that are just now having their first kids struggle to understand why their wife is too tired or busy for them (or sex) or why they act different! Mine acted the same way and still says he misses the old me. What the size 4 or the one that got so wasted on a Saturday night out that I slept Sunday away, or the one that worked out 5 days a week, worked until I was blue in the face, always had a clean car and house but felt empty? Well news flash... the old me is forever gone and I am a new women... a better women, a happier women, a busier women and a more tired women... and there is not a day I would want to return my son for my old life. Okay well, maybe yesterday. But seriously he brings me more joy than ever imagined and that is why I am okay being tired and "no fun" :)

So friends without kids and husbands who "hate" their new life with kids read this article and understand a bit better why we "stay at home mom's" with our "free time", play dates (you think that is what I want to be doing?) and time at home eating bon bons are different and less "fun" than we were before kids. Read it and you will get why when we have 5 minutes to ourselves its not spent with our hubby or a phone call to a bf, rather its spent to yourself!

PS... as I wrote this Cohen took his entire lunch... smashed it into the floor, and rubbed his pb sandwhich on the wall. You never get a free second away from worry or work with kids!